“What’s wrong with me?”. It’s the 4-worded question you usually stop asking yourself as a teenager (if you ever thought it at all), but for me it’s been a lifelong quest to find an answer. Yes, I have clinical anxiety and depression but I’ve always felt like that wasn’t the only reason I dislike myself. I cannot tell you all the things people have said to me in an attempt to ease my curiosity.
You’ll grow out of it.
Wait until you’re older, you’ll love yourself then.
I didn’t really appreciate myself until I was in my 30s.
Once you have a boyfriend/husband/significant other, you’ll be fine!
I mean, really? A young woman is concerned about her deep hatred of herself and THAT’S what you tell them? It’s only recently that it clicked just how horrible that advice is. I’ve always been suicidal but it’s for other reasons I never took action. Had I actually listened to those responses and let them get to me, who knows the path I would of taken. Unfortunately, these people thought they were actually helping and that’s what scares me. How many people are out there who feel like me, and getting this advice?
While I may not know how to help anyone else who is experiencing a similar life to my own (yet!), I can share my story as it happens and hope it may have some positive effect for someone else. Last year I tried my hand at travelling Europe, both solo and as part of a Topdeck tour. I’ve learned a lot about myself and I have things I need to pass on to others, whether you love or loathe yourself (or anything in between).
Before I get into them, I want to make it crystal clear that this post is for EVERY ONE. Travelling solo isn’t just for people who aren’t in a relationship. Even if you’re married, in a new relationship or have some other kind of partnership this post is still directed at you. Another quick disclaimer, age is irrelevant. Whether you are 21 or 61 , it’s never too late to travel solo. In fact, I urge you to. Here’s why: Continue Reading